He is already going to tell me off for not using the correct term – technically my other half is a contractor BUT the way I see it there is little difference between the two when it comes to the affects it has on a relationship. So I think I’m let off there!
Any of you who are in a relationship with a farmer, whether it be early stages, solid & secure and planning a future or in a long term settled relationship the perks and pitfalls are all the same.
RAIN becomes your best friend! Instead of the old ‘rain, rain, go away.. come again another day’ jingle, you find yourself starting to look forward to a rainy day here and there.
I am definitely guilty of this, this being a regular occurrence in our relationship.
Me: Hey babe, do you know what the weather is supposed to do over the next few days?
Him: Yeah, looks like cloudy tomorrah, but rain at the weekend.
Me: *internal YES like an excited child* (normally followed by some kind of over excited gesture) Oh okay, (play it cool) so does that mean you might be off?
Him: Yeah think so, if it rains enough.
I then find myself for the next day and run up until he said it was supposed to rain praying to the weather gods to deliver on their promise!
LUNCH AND DINNER LADY. I am sure this goes both ways for our female farmers with loyal lads, but for me its definitely a common occurrence. I often discuss who is getting what with my girl friends who are also in ‘ag’ relationships. Take-aways tend to become regulars on your call history. A little tip for you girls: ALWAYS go armed with a beer. That’s a real sweetener.
HARD WORKERS. Generally, our farming other halves are the most hard working people we know. Mine certainly is. He has such a ‘can do’ attitude and always wants to do his best, which makes me proud to call him mine (sorry for the soppy gloop!), and I find it’s not just in their farming, but it is in everything they do.
‘If a job isn’t done properly, it isn’t worth doing at all’ something my dad always used to tell me, an ethos he got taught and lived by growing up on a farm in Scotland.
The most important tip I think I can give any of you is to GO WITH THE FLOW, I get reminded of this frequently by my other half and as infuriating as I find it sometimes it definitely is the key to making the relationship work. I never don’t think I ever resented the phrase ‘we will see’ as much as I do now I date a farmer. Planning things is a nightmare, but don’t even bother thinking about planning anything during harvest. Planning as far as the next week or month is hard enough, I’m often faced with; ‘depends on the weather’ or ‘depends how much we get done’, but you learn to take the good with the bad because the pro’s 100% out way the cons.
For example in keeping with going with the flow – yes there is a perk to this! If you don’t really want to attend an event or party you have been invited to that’s easy blame it on the fact you need to get things done before the rain comes, or the farmer needs it done by… it works a treat!
HUMAN VERSION OF GOOGLE MAPS – this one involves back roads! Not what some of you may be thinking I’m sure! There isn’t a road within my county my man can’t direct me to. So if I am lost – it’s no problem, he can help get me back on the right track. Roads closed? No problem, he will know a way around it! I have also become a pretty nifty driver maneuvering around all these tiny back roads following his directions on my way to date-night in the field, which brings me onto my next point.
Tractor Date Nights, these quickly became a favorite of mine and in my opinion a real perk of dating a farmer! I love them. Mine combines during harvest so I get the luxury of a fridge! Rocking up with a tasty take-away, our favorite tunes blaring out the radio, the 2-way radio amusement, and just the quality time. Nothing beats it in my books!
So, dating a farmer certainly isn’t a walk in the park, but neither is dating in general these days. All I will say, is if you have yourself a hard working, caring and passionate farmer you will most likely have the most loving and loyal partner you can find. I know I have.
Photo credit: Rachel Churches