As I sit here, tucked under the duvet in my pjs, no bra, hair in a scruffy no nonsense bun on the top of my head and zero make up reeling after last night’s Attitude Magazine Awards in London and having given Simba an early night I wanted to write a quick note to you all, given that today is internationally recognised as Wold Mental Health Day (10th October 2019). This is anyone and everyone. To anyone that may be able to relate to this (I am sure that is the majority), to anyone who needs a little pick-me-up, a little reassurance that you’re not alone and you are YOU and that is more than enough. YOU are beautiful, amazing and one of a kind – literally!
What does positive Mental Health look like? Well, honestly, I think that it looks different for everyone. No one person is the same and we all have different views, attitudes, lifestyles and people surrounding us. The world around us is moving, changing and evolving faster than we can keep a handle on but you can count on one thing. Yourself. You’ll always be there for you. Life can be a rollercoaster that’s certain and whilst people around you may come and go, you’ll always have yourself. And so, learning to enjoy your own company, the ramblings of your mind, learning to love and respect your body – the body that essentially keeps you alive and breathing should be your priority.
As I just mentioned, our lives are whizzing by at 100 miles an hour and we often feel like there’s just not enough hours in the day to do everything. With all of that comes the reality of living. To live and live comfortably and happily is not free in fact, it’s damn expensive! We need to work to earn money, to pay for a roof over our heads, heating, electric, water, tv, internet. Not to mention the taxes we pay (where that money ends up is arguable). We need to buy the food we eat to feed our body to keep us alive, transport costs. Childcare costs, the list is never ending and these are just the ’necessities’ – I haven’t even touched upon life’s luxuries. With the need for all of the above to enable us to live successfully in a society comes financial stress, anxiety and the struggle and pressure of being able to afford all of the above can lead to depression, harmful coping mechanisms and even suicide.
Life (in my opinion) and society can cause these conditions. The people around you, family, friends and partners can too. Words hurt. People can be cruel. Often, I don’t think it’s intentional to cause emotional pain or that feeling where you find yourself questioning something someone has said but our minds are powerful things and the way things are said and interpreted can have a long-lasting and sometimes detrimental affect to someone’s wellbeing. So, I urge you to think before you speak. Those comments you make, even if they’re sarcastic and you might mean them in a lighthearted way, consider the other person before you speak. Whether it’s about someone’s appearance, choice of clothes, belief, something they said, past, future plans etc. Think before you speak.
Go out of your way to check in with people. Ask if they are ok, talk to one another. It helps.
Think of you. Be selfish, put yourself first – obviously not at the expense of others. But, take time to get to know yourself. Your likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses. What are your fears? Dreams? Ambitions? What relaxes you? What stresses you out?
Once you get to know you, you can look out for yourself. You know what’s normal for you and so when things begin to stray or you are finding yourself feeling stressed or anxious you can act accordingly. It’s ok not to be ok sometimes. Unfortunately we are all human, none of us have super powers. Life can be tough sometimes and that is ok. It’s how you deal with it that matters.
Take a walk in the countryside to clear your head, go for a ride, cook your fave meal (mac & cheese always does the trick for me), go for a coffee with a friend or family member, have a duvet and disney day. Whatever unwinding and recharging looks like for you – DO IT. And don’t feel guilty.
I want to shout out three incredible people who are doing amazing things everyday in promoting a positive and healthy mindset. If you don’t follow them already, I highly recommend it.
So now, I’m off to make mac & cheese, relax and recharge a little. Also, I woke up with a bitch of a cold, so I am going to stock up on Beechams and hope and pray I get some sleep. Also, I’m guest lecturing at the University of Chichester tomorrow on a Digital Marketing course, talking about the power of social media. Have a lovely evening. You are beautiful inside and out.
Until next time…
Lots of love,